>> MY REPLY: NO MORE MEDIOCRITY... I WANT SUCCESS NOW!

from me to my wife date Tue, Oct 28, 2008 at 7:08 PM subject NO MORE MEDIOCRITY... I WANT SUCCESS NOW.

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heheh.. no really.. i want to, but i don't want to go mediocre anymore.  i don't want to just get by.  i don't want to rely on anyone for money or surviving anymore.  i'm sick of being halfass... i'm sick of being late. i'm sick of being ineffective.  i really want to make a name for ourselves.  i want to get to superstar status in success and never look back.  i never want to be in this shit ever again. i never ever want to wish we could only to find we can't because of lack of resources.  i'm sick and tired of letting people down.  i'm sick and tired of not reaching my potential.  i want to get to the point where everyone is proud of me and my accomplishments.  i want to be so successful, people are envious of me (not cuz i want them to be jealous, but b/c i'm so successful they can't help but be jealous!).

I don't want you to have to be excited about an email "special" from travelzoo where the "special" is so special BECAUSE no one else wants to go on this mediocre cruise and the only way to fill the damn boat is to discount it low enough to be warranted as a "special" just so the travel company can fill UNWANTED seats at "SPECIAL" prices.  I want you to be able to get a call from several of your travel agents letting you know of a GRAND VACATION opportunity... and it's "grand" because not any shmo can go on this trip.  it's grand because of the exclusive access to the location and resort/destination/cruise.  i want you to be excited about a vacation where there is limited seating NOT BECAUSE the prices are so low that everyone and their grandmother are buying seats on an overbooked vacation... i want the vacation trip that you're excited about to be limited seating because the vacation is so exclusive and limited to the elite of the elite and not the bottom of the bottom.

I want success and fortune not JUST for the vanity of it - altho, that'd be nice, it's not necessary or sought for that reason.  i want success and fortune so that we can be financially secure in our lifetime and our kids' lifetimes.  i want to be able to truly enjoy without any ...ANY... concerns or thots of how we paid for it and who we owe when we come back from the damn trip.  I want us to finally be so organized, so motivated, so "juiced" to take massive action to achieve what many would label as "unimaginable" success and fortune in all that we strive for and work towards.

i'm tired of being sad or annoyed or irritated when we can't do what we want to do or go where we want to go or have to stop and think or calculate how to go, do, be whatever the hell we want to go, do, be!  i'm tired of feeling bad when i can't shower you with the fortune and luxuries that you deserve.  i'm tired of feeling bad (and stupid) that i wasted my youth and $ on the wrong person and in the wrong time... i VOW to never be in this position again, and would like for all this LACK to reverse to be all in ABUNDANCE in the near future of 2009!  While I can't have, do, be all this financially for you right now, I will at least do my best to do, be, and have as a better human being and husband to you.  i'm tired of talk.. i'm tired of false starts.  Sorry for the hollow promises - hollow not because my promises were insincere, but hollow because i was not sure of what my path should be or what my focus should be on... hollow because i did not yet know what i should do or what i should be.  i'm sorry it took me so long to figure things out.

and now that i KNOW what i want, where to be, what to seek, and what to do... to hell with the sorry and pity party.  as our paths to success become clear every day (and i'm so grateful for the clarity and support from you and my family up til now), I promise anew that we will grab this vision with both hands and take this running to stars with our ambitions ablazed to FINALLY get out of this mediocrity of what we have limited ourselves to.

yesss... "Sigh -- Okay" to the mediocre travelzoo special.  let's do better, be better, and have better starting with being clear on placing ourselves with higher standards and expectations of ourselves ... let's make a big splash by setting up some huge goals that we will achieve in the near future (by june, 2009) so that we can aptly reward ourselves with a GRAND DREAM VACATION and not feel bad that we can't go on some college student's vacation that travelzoo is trying to blow out to fill some unwanted seats on some unwanted cruise.

OK??

LOVE AND SUCCESS, YOUR HUSBAND...
me

Get the Edge: Day2 - Results Workshop

RAISE YOU STANDARDS - the difference in people's lives it the difference in their standards

* turn your "shoulds" to "musts"

7 Steps to Conscious Change:

1. Get Disturbed.

a. get honest w/self;

b. get associated to the prob;

c. surround yourself w/people who have what you want

EXERCISE - How do you rationalize? -List at least 5 rationalizations you use for not following thru. the antidote to self rationalization is honesty.

(what are the most common reasons you fail to do things? what stories do you tell yourself?)

1. I don't have enough time to complete it - i can start it, but might not have time to finish it... i'll do it later when i have more time to complete it;
   
2. I want to do it together with my wife so we can be on the same page and support each other thru it;
3. I woke up too late to start, i'll do it tomorrow!
4. I can't start without my wife...
5. It's too hot/cold to start.
6. I want to start off with a clean slate - the conditions aren't good enough to start;
7. I'm not ready;
8. I might fail;
9. I'm afraid after all that I do, my results will not show for it;
10. I'm afraid that after all that i do, nothing will happen;
11. If I improve, I will have less to improve and less to show for and that will diminish my "wow" factor/value;
12. If I am always operating at optimum levels, I'll have to keep up those high standards all the time - that will take more time to perform... everyone will expect more from me

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* momentum and chunking is a powerful way to fight rationalization;

* push thru your comfort zone;

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2. MAKE A REAL DECISION;

EXERCISE - What's Disturbing? What are you unhappy about?

1. I'm unhappy about my health;
2. I'm unhappy about my skin;
3. I'm unhappy about my diet;
4. I'm unhappy about my cholesterol;
5. I'm unhappy about my finances;
6. I'm unhappy about my debt;
7. I'm unhappy about my office;
8. I'm unhappy about my lack of organization;
9. I'm unhappy about my lack of exercise;
10. I'm unhappy about my lack of time management;
11. I'm unhappy about my lack of exercise;
12. I'm unhappy about my lack of discipline;
13. I'm unhappy about my lack of energy;
14. I'm unahppy about my inconsistency;
15. I'm unhappy about how I'm always late;
16. I'm unhappy about what kind of example I'm setting for my kids;
17. I'm unhappy about the low standards I have in my life;
18. I'm unhappy about not being a husband, son, brother, friend, dad, business person that others could look up to and be proud of;
19. I'm unhappy about being unreliable;
20. I'm tired of being sloppy;
21. I'm tired of being overweight;
22. I'm tired of waiting for the right time to change for the better;
23. I'm tired of relying on others to save me or help me get out of the messes I get into;
24. I'm unhappy about having my family worry about me;
25. I'm unhappy about how I manage my anger (i don't);
26. I'm unhappy about my family schedule (or lack of);
27. I'm disappointed with my lack of focus;
28. I'm tired of being a disappointment to people;
29. I'm unhappy about not being financially secure;
30. I'm unhappy with my relationship with my family (siblings and parents) - not only have i let them down, but they no longer view me as competent or reliable.

What do you want instead?

1. I want to always be on time;
2. I want to be responsible;
3. I want to be successful;
4. I want to be rich;
5. I want to be healthy;
6. I want to be secure;
7. I want to be respected:
8. I want to be reliable;
9. I want to be able to run 10 miles in one workout at a 7min mile average pace;
10. I want to be in the best physical condition of my life;
11. I want to never have to worry about finances ever again for my family now and my kids' families;
12. I want to have at least 5 fortune 500 companies running for me;
13. I want to have lasting health for me and my family;
14. I want to be a positive impact in my society and the world;
15. I want to create lasting programs that will help improve the lives of people by teaching them to see past their current limitations;
16. I want to be an inspiration to others in all aspects of life - health, spiritual, relationships, business, personal growth;
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Get The Edge: Day 1 (session 1)

Your Hour of Power: Take Stock of Your Emotions

The quality of your life is the quality of the emotions you consistently experience. The more you move, the more you feel.

Which emotions do you feel on a regular basis? Make a list of all the emotions you consistently experience in a given week.

Empowering/Positive Emotions:

Love

Disempowering/Painful Emotions:

Frustration

Fear

Worry

Upset

Disappointment

Impatience

Anger

Grumpiness